If you are a cisgender gay man, your right to hold your husband’s hand in public is directly connected to a trans girl’s right to use the girls’ bathroom. Both are seen by the far right as a violation of "natural order." To throw the trans community under the bus for a seat at the table is to forget that the bus is still driving toward all of us.
The trans community gave the world terms like "cisgender" (to de-center the default), "gender dysphoria" (to name a specific pain), and "passing" (to critique the pressure to assimilate). These are not just trans words; they are queer theory made practical. classic shemale films